Do not be seduced by lowering expectations. Yes, that is the path of initial least resistance. It may even be less difficult for you the adult, but a much better path in the longer term is to clearly communicate your high expectations of the child to them directly.
Effective leaders don’t aim for the minimums as goals. Of course, everything can’t be the number one priority either.
As the adult, you must exercise judgment concerning which expectations are most important. Your child is sometimes required to perform many tasks that are not critical to their development as leaders. While some of these are extremely important, others require only a minimum effort. Striving for perfection in every area, regardless of how trivial, can quickly work an individual or even a team to death. On the other hand, the fact that a task isn’t a first priority doesn’t excuse a sloppy performance. Caring adults make sure the expectation of the child fits the task’s importance.
Your values influence the child’s behavior because the child may use them to decide between alternatives. You have the power to influence the child’s values by setting the example and recognizing behavior that supports those values. You are the ethical standard bearer. Understand and be personally committed to the values that make leadership effective.